Overcome the Fear of Criticism
Criticism is never fun to receive. Even if we recognize the value of professional feedback or constructive criticism, very few of us could say we enjoy being criticized.
When we receive criticism, we can respond in one of two ways:
Option one: let those words play on repeat in our heads like a broken record.
Option two: tap into the self-belief within us, and filter criticism through the lens of your accomplishments and character.
Imagine self-esteem as the foundation upon which success is built. Just as a building’s stability relies on a solid foundation, an individual’s achievements rest upon a strong sense of self-worth. When self-esteem is lacking, the desire to pursue success withers away. Why would someone invest time and effort in their goals if they genuinely believe that failure is their destiny?
Consider a talented artist who creates stunning masterpieces. Their talents alone aren’t enough; they must recognize and acknowledge their artistic abilities to channel them effectively. Similarly, recognizing our own capabilities empowers us to leverage our skills and seize opportunities even in the face of criticism and negativity.
When hurtful words from others make you doubt yourself, think back to times when those words didn’t bother you as much. You can rediscover the comforting thoughts that helped calm your feelings. Writing them down and keeping them in mind will help you reinforce your memory and feel more empowered.
Reflect on the narrative you tell yourself. Is it marked by the criticisms of others? Or is it built through your strong self-belief and acknowledgment of your talents? No matter where you are or what’s been said about you, you have the power within yourself to change the narrative and rewrite your story as one of triumph and to prove the critics wrong.
Here are some questions to help you get started on rewriting your narrative:
What is a criticism that limits your belief in yourself?
Who said it and what is their relation to you?
How long ago did this happen? How have you changed since then?
How well did this person know you? What are their credentials to make them a trustworthy judge?
Is it possible that, in being yourself, you triggered an insecurity that they then took out on you?
What is the other side of their criticism? If you were to defend yourself now, how might you counter their remark?
Through literally rewriting this story out, you will have solid evidence to come back to and remind yourself of whenever this criticism comes back to haunt you. The faster you can overcome the negative beliefs that stem from this experience, the more opportunities you’ll be able to take advantage of and the more you’ll be able to accomplish.
Curious to explore further? Find more insights in Rediscover Your Wisdom.
